Sh*t Expat Women Say

I am an expert procrastinator. I have four articles due on Thursday and another four due next week. So how did I spend my weekend? Watching “Shit X Say” videos on YouTube.

Unless you’ve been living in a cave somewhere, I’m sure you’ve seen at least one of these. The meme started with the classic “@shitmydadsays,” a Twitter feed that delivered exactly what it promised: the funny, off-the-wall utterances of the account owner’s 75-year-old father. It went viral very quickly and led to a book of the same name, as well as a short-lived sitcom (technically called “$#*! My Dad Says”) starring William Shatner. (I saw it once. Meh.)

In late 2011, the video “Shit Girls Say” popped up on YouTube, and the Internet went nuts. The impulse to parody certain groups — from suburban moms to yogis, and everyone in between — proved to be irresistible: there are dozens of these videos out there, and they’re multiplying by the hour. They’re addictive, too: watching them is kind of like eating potato chips: you plan to have just a couple and end up scarfing back the whole bag. (Trust me; I know whereof I speak.)

My YouTube weekend marathon was inspired by the newest kid on the block: “Shit Expat Women Say.” Created by Margarita Gokun Silver, a certified Expatriate and Cross-Cultural Coach and founder of the Global Coach Center, it pokes lighthearted fun at, well, expat women.

“I did the video just for fun,” she told me in an email. “I thought it would be hilarious to do a video for expat women and men. (The expat men video is in editing now.)  It was a spur-of-the-moment thought and inspiration really … I wrote the script in about 10 minutes.  The statements came from my own experiences of saying some of those things, hearing what expat women say, and from reading what they say in various forums on the Internet.”

Margarita, who helps expat assignees and spouses make the most of their expatriate experience, had two goals in mind when she created the video. “I was hoping to put a bit of humor into what can be seen as a stressful experience and to give people an opportunity to laugh at themselves,” she says. “Stress and frustration can often be dealt with easier if we find humor in each situation.  My other goal was to get people to come to my website and download a free workbook/guide of A to Z of Successful Expatriation™ so that if they are having difficult times as expats, this guide can help them.”

The original “Girls” video generated a lot of controversy, and I wondered if Margarita was getting any grief after posting the “Expat Women” clip on her blog. Not really, she says. “I only got one response that was not ‘thrilled’ about the message.  Otherwise I haven’t received any negative reactions after posting it on my Facebook and also seeing it shared on Facebook and Twitter. Most people just laughed.”

I smiled when I watched it, because I’ve said a few of those things myself and I’ve definitely heard the rest. (In fact, I can think of a few that Margarita missed.) I recognize myself in it — that’s what makes it fun.

What do you think?


About Maria

I'm a Canadian repatriate, former expat spouse, mother to two TCKs (and one yellow Lab), mentor to new immigrants, writer, reader, world traveller (grounded for now). I write about expat/repat issues and am still trying to figure out my place in the world.
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9 Responses to Sh*t Expat Women Say

  1. Marie says:

    Mildly funny at best.

    It may have been more amusing if she wasn´t munching on potato chips and speaking with the diction of a 15 year old valley girl circa 1985.

  2. I love that by slowing down and speaking loudly, she’s sure that will help!

  3. It’s cute…but there are a lot more things we say! “Why do they do THAT?!” occurs to me…:-)

  4. Judy says:

    If expat women don’t have sufficient sense of humour to laugh at this, then they’re dead in the water anyway. Margarita, if you’re reading this, I hope you’re including that classic line in your new expat man video “In my next life I want to come back as an expat wife.” I swear I will swing for the next man who says that within my hearing!

  5. Maria says:

    A quick note to the reader whose comment went straight into the trash (and others of her ilk): I moderate all comments on this blog. Healthy discussion is welcome; personal attacks are not.

  6. GlobalCoachCenter says:

    Thanks, Maria, for your article and thanks everyone for your comments! Judy — that line is classic… unfortunately the “Shit Expat Men Say” is already done so cannot include it … but maybe next time! Please know that this was a very, very low budget production and the actress did all she could do to make it funny… hence is the potato chips and the diction!

    Thanks again everyone — if we can have a few smiles among all the stress, I am happy!

    Oh… and if you didn’t know this already — I am not the actress in the video! I am much more camera-shy. 🙂


  7. Maria Vonderall says:

    My four year old could write a better script.

    …and don´t bother asking “what do you think”, unless you really want to know what someone thinks. Seems like if anyone has a differing opion than yours, you can´t take it.

    True signs of a total hack.

    • Maria says:

      Thanks for your comment. In fact, I do want to know what people think … about the video. I don’t see the value in allowing anyone to insult other commenters who, like you, have the right to express their opinion. It’s just a video, for crying out loud.

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